Our minds are constantly bombarded with negative thoughts, visions of horrible things that may happen to us, and terrifying reasons not to do the things we want to do.
And yet in the end, these horrible things rarely happen, or we have made these horrible things, well, more horrible. Rarely are these horrible things as debilitating as we create them to be.
For much of my life, a negative thought would enter my mind, I would identify the thought as negative, yet would be unable to move past the negative thought.
It SHOULD be a big deal.
It SHOULD cause me pain.
It SHOULD be difficult to cope.
It SHOULD make me unhappy.
Enter reframing, the idea that we identify negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. It's no secret that the Secret is awesome. Earlier in the week, this email hits my inbox:
"Look for gifts in everything, especially when you are facing what appears to be a negative situation. Everything that we attract causes us to grow, which means that ultimately everything is for our own good. Adjusting to a new path will require new qualities and strengths, and these qualities are always exactly what we need to acquire in order to accomplish the great things ahead in our life."
Reframing is a skill, not something perfected overnight. We must be mindful of recognizing these negative thoughts, and push to think positively rather than allowing these thoughts to fester.
Life is much more enjoyable that way.